Trust-the battle to keep It

Today in speaking with my daughter I heard that I had violated her trust. 

I know in taking my vow to marriage, there was the vow to love, honor and obey. Does it say that we will trust?

We are to trust in the Lord and walk in faith.

How is trust obtained, kept, lost and regained?

I have three biological girls, Carrie, Meagan and Candice.  As each child was born, these beautiful children were each placed on a pedestal (unknowingly).  They were so beautiful, a gift from God, and how I loved them.

As each started to walk, love grew and so did trust.  Trust that each could stand on their own.

As they began to talk (parents wish for this along with walking, only to ask why), we again add to our pride and love bank. 

As this bank is filled, the pedestal they were put on when they were born starts to rise.  We feel such love, such pride and trust that when anything happens, the all to familiar phrase comes out.  "My child could never do anything like that!"  We know in our hearts that we loved them, taught them right from wrong, and disciplined when necessary and that deemed our utmost trust.

Parents will go to the hill to fight for a chid because that bank is full and the pedestal high.  I know, I've done it for each of them.  Parents:  your pedestal will fall, trust me.  Why?  Because we are not perfect.

But at what point do we as parents start filling their trust bank?  Do they have one?  Is it everytime we pick them up, hug and kiss them?  Do we get put on pedestals?

The danger with pedestals is that we fall, the disappointment, the broken trust is devastating.  I know, I've felt it.  It was at the time we fall off the pedestal that we come back to reality, that we are all human and will make mistakes. 

As parents we have to remember that we too were children and at some point and in some cases, many points,we too violated the trust of our parents.  And we continued to be loved.

This writing is in no way written to ease the pain of distrust I have placed in my daughter.  It is only to say that I love my children, I am human, I make mistakes, you make mistakes and I hope that I can rebuild what was lost.