Roger and Bennett
Carrie, Tucker and Bennett
This is my oldest daughter, Carrie Ann. I'm so proud of this woman and I love her.
I was told that I couldn't conceive. It took a while but I accepted it. However, one day I was leaving for my job and started to throw up. We were in Germany at the time, and the previous night we had chinese food (in Germany? Yep, it was good). So I chalked it up to that.
We were moving into our permanent quarters on base and I just wasn't feeling good. I eventually went to the doctor and he told me my rabbit had died. I didn't have a rabbit. Never having heard the term, he told me I was pregnant. Now, I had to go home and tell the hubby.
I didn't have any instruction or knowledge of the whole process and therefore, when Carrie Ann came into the world it was scary, daunting, and exciting all at the same time. We were alone together just she and I as my husband at the time was playing golf. It was really important to him. More so, than his child or me.
We were alone most of the time...she was a beautiful baby. She didn't have hair until she was 2 years and only peach fuzz. Then it came in, bleach blonde. She was a beauty.
Because we were in the army, we moved a bit. We left my husband when she was 9 months and again, we were alone. It was my choice. For Carrie and me, I aways thought of us as that song says "you and me against the world".
See had a difficult childhood and because of the person I was then, I'm afraid she didn't get the best of moms. Because of her situation, she suffered physical and emotional abuse and at one time wanted to end her life. For a while, I couldn't sleep at night and would go into her room many times just to make sure she was ok.
One day at work, I received a call that no parent wants to receive. One telling you that your child has been in an accident and taken to Southdale Hospital. Where the heck was that? Someone gave me directions and I rushed to her.
She was covered in blood and on table with a doctor working on her. Her face was cut up pretty bad as she went into the windshield. The doctor asked me if I had a strong stomach and if so, I could stay. He proceeded to pull the skin from Carrie's forehead back and extract glass framents from her face. She was a mess.
At one point I had to leave or I was going to lose my lunch. Dr said if I couldn't stay put I had to leave. I wasn't going to leave her but I did put my head down many times. We left the hospital with medicine in hand and I took her home.
She had moved out when she was barely 18 and into an apartment with 3 other girls. But here is where it gets great. Roger was called and told about Carrie and he rushed to the apartment to be with her. She didn't want him to see her but he wanted to take care of her. I thought to myself, if he can go through this with her, he can take anything.
I was dismissed to go home and Roger would take care of her. He was caring, tender, gentle, loving, and attentive. He took good care of her and as I watched, I thought this is the kind of man I would want for her. She endured two more surgeries to fix her face and then she said enough. No more. She would live with her face and she was fine with it.
She endured ups and downs and eventually Carrie and Roger married. She was a beautiful bride and Roger was stunning in his tux. He is very kind but I don't think people really see it. He puts on that strong, gruff appearance and the gentle side of him doesn't show through.
They were married in 2001 and in 2005 we welcomed Tucker James Bastyr into the world. Then in 2007 we welcomed Bennett Roger Bastyr into the world. They are both beatiful little boys who carry both their parents in them.
As of late, however, things have been difficult. There is need for prayer and support for this family. As a mother and one who loves her chidren so deeply, I feel helpless. I wish I could make this better. She is wondering what she has done, why is she being put through this fire and what lesson is there to learn.
I sit here in Florida and my heart aches for her. What can I do but listen and pray and be there when she needs me. Lord knows I would do anything for her. I love her so much.
I'm so sorry I can't make it better, honey. I don't know what to do for you.
Lord, you know the situation and you know their needs. Please let Carrie feel your presence and know that you are walking beside her and that she is NOT alone. Hear her cries and prayers and give her peace and comfort to walk through not only her home situation but her work sutation. Lord, I pray that you will resolve this situation quickly so that those two little boys can have their parents back, their homelife restored and their relationship strengthened and deepened by their love and by you. In Jesus' holy and precious name. Amen.
I love you Carrie. Mom
Remember this, I love you too, and I trust you enough to call you when I am in trouble. You are always in fix mode, sometimes God uses you just as ears and to offer any advice you can...Sometimes you need to listen to what he is using you for, and not want you think you need to do. I have started to Pray before I react. Last night I was upset that Candice was part of some plan to get involved in my marriage. I prayed about it, I asked why, and that's that. All done. Course I also used my sisters as sounding boards last night until well after 9. That helped too. You know sometimes you remind me of......Roger. Rush to judgement and over react. Have have to take things as them come, fix things one at a time. I cannot assume my marriage will fail or it will. Nor do I believe that it is in that sort of peril.
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Carrie Ann - ps bossed already found something else that I cannot do right.
Also can I send you some pictures of me thinner?
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