Martin Allan Rossing, born April 28, 1953 in Stillwater, Minnesota to Myron and Marjorie Rossing.
Two brothers and two beautiful daughters, Michelle and Melinda (both married).
I first met Martin in 1988 when I started working in his area at Medtronic.
In conversations with Mom, I asked her how she raised such a great and gentle man. Her answer: she taught him to respect women and treat them like they were princesses. He did then and still does. He doesn't have to, it's a choice, but doesn't the desire to respect come along with the appropriate behavior?
It baffles me that as we decide to take the marriage plunge, that even as adults we have no idea how to be married, stay married, work on the marriage, improve the marriage, and live with each other until death due us part. After all, we dated but the I do part can change things. And what of expectations? You get into the marriage and his expectations are different than mine? Scary. But I could talk to Martin about anything and unfortunately, he tends to be very objective. This sometimes is not what I want to hear.
Anyway, Martin, Mitzee and I decided to go to Coconut Point Mall as they have music by the lakeside shops every night from 6-9pm. We parked, grabbed a doggie bag, Miztzee and each other and headed for the music. It was nice but not what we expected. We listened for a bit, entertained people cooing over Mitzee and just wanting to get their doggie fix and we cut out to walk the mall.
Coconut Point is a beautiful mall lit up with white lights, palm trees literally swaying in the wind, and smells from the restaurants floating around your nose. As I walked, holding the hand of the man I love and watching Mitzee walk ahead, I realize how sweet life is. How many other people in marriages feel truly loved by their spouses? I know I do!!
Martin is a complex man, he is very intelligent and holds a wealth of information in his head. But what he knows about women he was taught by his mom and that was to respect women. He opens my car door all the time. If I try to open it, he will lock it until he can put his hand on the door knob and open it. When we walk side by side, you will usually find us holding hands which gives us another chance to say I love you, and get a small amount of intimacy in while walking.
When Martin asked me to marry him and he asked 5 times, I finally said yes because as I drove one day I realized I'd rather be with him than without him. As I drove I could recall al the times he made me laugh, how he would come when I was frightened out of my mind and check my house for unwanted intruders. How he could tell a joke and I would roll my eyes and say "that's a DNR". How he could on the spot come up with something exactly right for the situation and make me laugh.
It's funny how our children were trying to get us together. Did they see something we didnt'?
I do know that as I walked down the aisle I knew that in all the decisions I had made in my life, this was the only one I knew was the right one and I wasn't afraid of. Martin saw the inner me (the person God created). I'm so glad. I can't tell you how much I love this man. He can be frustrating as anything, but then I know when he says I love you gorgeous in that tone of voice, that he is speaking from the depths of his heart. How many wives can say that?
I can be in one room in the house and he can be in another, and I feel safe and secure. I can have a bad day and the pain would spike off the chart and even after a 14 hour day, he wants to stop and bring dinner home. When I returned from a weekend retreat, he had gone and picked up our favorite desserts for us to share.
I think when you love someone you put their needs, desires, wants etc first. Martin is an old pro at this. He'd rather buy me something or let me have something and put whatever he may want on hold. He constantly sacrifices and has done so a fair portion of his life for those he loves.
Honey, I love you, think the world of you, and am proud of you.
See you Thursday night.
Some of his other loves. Jonathan
Mitzee
Tucker and Bennett
Please note the facial expression in all the pictures. He seems to be a happy man!!!!
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